Experientialist: a collector of experiences, especially one-of-a-kind.
Oh, I am going to need your advice. Right now, I am at a point where I need some outside help with making a decision. I am especially interested in hearing from you because you are not emotionally invested in the decision itself. You will be able to see things more clearly, or ask me questions about something that I am not considering. I will be out of town for the next couple of days and my not have computer access. Please, please, please give me your input. I am starting to get stressed to an unhealthy level.
I have lived in a very small town since late 2005 (appx 4500). In that time, I have managed to have three different jobs. The first one, was an hour and a half away (lasted 3 months), the second one was in town and then the company went bankrupt (lasted 10 months), the last one was also in town and I was fired for taking time off for cancer treatment (7 months). Three jobs in 8 years. The economy has adversely affected where I live to the point where the county that I live in has one of if not the highest unemployment rates in California. The closest “metropolitan” town (not really) is at least an hour and a half away. It makes for a very long day on a very treacherous road.
Since my divorce was “mostly” final in August of last year, and I am now a year plus into my cancer being in remission, I have options open to me that I didn’t before.
There is no real reason for me to stay where I am. I do love my little place (and my landlords-very much) and feel good here, but I have basically no friends, no family, no job and an iffy “love” interest. Yes, I finally got to act in a play, but that is not enough of a reason to hang around – the chance that I might get another part.
Getting back into my field (legal) in this little, good ole’ boy town is not going to happen. There have been no decent jobs listed in the want ads for a very long, long time. It has gotten to a point where I have lost hope that I will be able to get employed where I live. The longer I stay unemployed, the less desirable I look to an employer.
And last but not least, my rent will be going up next month. Which means while I was already mostly upside down, I will be really, really upside down.
My mom has been “encouraging” me to move closer to her.
Here is the problem with moving: No job, + 1st, last and deposit, +big dog does not necessarily = someone willing to rent to a high risk renter.
Finally, after this point becoming very clear to my mom, she has offered to help me. I still resist the thought of moving, it hasn’t even been a year and I got really ripped off from the moving company (plus I think they stole some of my property)! The thought of moving again sends me into a tail spin.
Now there is another piece to this problem. My mother tells me of a place that is for rent (even more snow -ugh). The rent is not bad, but even more than that is my proximity to family and a MAJOR METROPOLITAN city – woo hoo! A much better chance at finding a job!
The other really good thing about moving – I will no longer be in a town where I will run into my ex, his family or his friends (and the dating pool will be a lot bigger-hah!).
But wait, there’s more! Today my mother plays a message for me from the potential landlord, she is reducing her original rental amount (almost half of what I pay now) to help me get on my feet (WOW) and doesn’t mind the dog.
Tuesday I will go see the place, I am told it is small, but I can’t imagine it will be any smaller than where I am living now. I won’t have a garage, but I don’t have one now. I understand it is two stories, and the heat is a wood burning stove. It is another 1200+ feet in elevation – yuck.
Unemployment compensation is only going to last so long which means I won’t be able to afford where I live now and my chance of finding a different place becomes slim to none. Moving my be inevitable.
What should I do?